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Happy couples never fight
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Conflict is normal. How you repair matters more than avoiding fights.
Couples who never fight usually aren't honest with each other. Research by Dr. John Gottman found that 69% of relationsh...
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Your partner should complete you
Fact
Healthy relationships are between two whole people, not two halves.
The 'you complete me' narrative sounds romantic but sets relationships up to fail. When you need someone to complete you...
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Butterflies mean it's true love
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Anxiety and excitement feel similar. Butterflies aren't a reliable love meter.
Those 'butterflies' can be chemistry—or anxiety about rejection, uncertainty about their feelings, or your own attachmen...
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If you're really in love, you won't be attracted to others
Fact
Attraction to others continues in relationships. It's your choices that define commitment.
Being in a committed relationship doesn't turn off your attraction to other people. Noticing someone is appealing doesn'...
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Relationships should be 50/50
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Healthy relationships are fluid, not a constant split. Sometimes it's 80/20, sometimes 20/80.
The 50/50 ideal suggests a transactional relationship where you're constantly tracking who did what. Real relationships ...
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Happy couples have sex 3+ times a week
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There's no 'normal' amount of sex. Satisfaction matters more than frequency.
Research shows the average couple has sex about once a week, but 'normal' ranges from never to daily. What matters is wh...
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Flirting with others counts as cheating
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Flirting isn't inherently cheating. Boundaries vary by relationship.
Whether flirting counts as cheating depends on what you and your partner have agreed to. Some couples consider friendly ...
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If they loved you, they'd know why you're upset
Fact
No one can read minds. Expecting mind-reading creates unnecessary conflict.
Your partner cannot know what you're thinking or feeling unless you tell them. When you expect them to 'just know,' you'...
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Having a baby will save your struggling relationship
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A baby magnifies existing problems. It won't fix a broken relationship.
Relationship satisfaction typically drops after having children—temporarily, for most couples; permanently, for those al...
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Living together before marriage leads to divorce
Fact
Cohabitation doesn't cause divorce. The age you move in together matters more.
Older research suggested cohabitation increased divorce risk, but newer studies show this correlation has disappeared. W...
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Your partner should be your best friend
Fact
Partners and best friends serve different roles. Both are valuable.
Expecting your partner to fulfill every emotional need is overwhelming and unrealistic. It's healthy to have friends who...
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Good relationships require constant sacrifice
Fact
Healthy relationships involve compromise, not constant sacrifice.
Sacrifice means giving up something important for you. Compromise means both partners give a little so both win. Constan...
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